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Check out a clip of BrotherWord helping beat the holiday blues. A special thank you to @DamaliKeithFOX and @Fox26 for a great opportunity.
I can use your advice. My lady and I have been together a little over a year and lately I feel like we are drifting apart. The vibe we once shared has dwindled considerably and the moments we used to share are few and far in between. We once shared a connection that I had never experienced but as of lately, we have become distant. I’m not sure what has changed, but something definitely has. I have a million thoughts running through my mind about what could be going on, none of which are good. She means everything to me and I am willing to do whatever it takes to salvage our relationship. Please help me.
Yesterday, one of my readers questioned whether or not they were Marriage Material. It’s a bit alarming the rate at which divorce happenes these days and with marriages falling apart daily, it’s easy to understand why so many have lost faith in marriage. As I expressed previously, marriage isn’t broken, people are, and as such, we have to find ways to mend ourselves in order to posiiton ourselves for our future spouses and properly prepare for the work that will determine the longevity and prosperity of your marriage. You train to run a marathon, you take continuing courses and learn new skills to be proficient on your job, and you spend hours honing your craft. So, why should it be any different in your marriage? What you put into is what you will get out of it.
Below are 20 wise marriage tips from a man that was recently divorced. It’s hard to imagine that someone who has experienced divorce would be a good candidate to receive marriage advice from, but the advice he shares is essential and stupendous! Sometimes we learn from our own mistakes and sometimes we learn from other’s mistakes.
MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD:
Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had… (more…)
I’m in a peculiar situation. Every woman, including me, dreams about meeting her Prince Charming, being swept off her feet, having a dream wedding, and living happily ever after. That fairytale sounds nice, but the reality is much different. No matter what I do or where I look, I have yet to meet Prince Charming and I continue to see my friends’ fairytales turn into horror stories. Beginning to wonder if marriage is really for me or am doomed to live a life of solitude.
I read your Tips to Cure the Holiday Blues, but I’m still stuck. As good as the suggestions were, I find myself still alone and very much lost. I volunteered, I talked to friends, and I realize and accept that I need help, but now what? At the end of the day, it is still me all alone; I don’t have family near or accessible, all my friends have families of their own, and outside of business hours, there is no one else to interact with. When I go home, it’s just me.
What do the lonely do at Christmas?
As the holidays approach, I am faced with the same issues I’ve been going through for the past 5 years – holiday dinner. The difference between my husband’s family and my family is night and day. My family is more traditional and I grew up with the quintessential holiday norms and I became accustomed to hosting, cooking the norms, such as turkey, dressing, vegetables, mashed potatoes, etc., baking pies, and being at home playing games and spending time with family and friends. My husband on the other hand grew up celebrating holidays completely different. They didn’t cook, didn’t gather together for dinner, most times than not going to any random restaurant to eat, and eventually split up spending the holidays separately visiting other people or doing their own thing. Since we’ve been married, we’ve pretty much operated the same way with my husband visiting with my family and me for a brief time, but eventually departing and going about his business. I’ve done my best to allow him to celebrate the holidays as he would like and enjoy them, but this year I want to host at our house, have everyone over, cook and bake, and have my husband participate in it all. I’m not sure how that will go over or whether both families can coexist. What should I do? Am I setting myself up for disappointment?
I’ve been actively pursuing this lady for almost 4 months now. I think she possesses a lot of what I’m looking for in a woman and a future, but our schedules have yet to align. The only time we speak, which is mainly by text, is only when I reach out and every time I ask why we haven’t gone out or spent time, she says she’s busy. I can read in between the lines and take subtle hints so I plainly asked her if she wasn’t interested because I don’t want to waste her time or mine. She was adamant that wasn’t the case and it’s not that she isn’t interested, but her schedule and life are crazy and hectic right now and she doesn’t want to start anything she can’t put her all in. Although I can respect the honesty, I’m really wondering if it was a polite way of saying, go away. What should I do?
Patience Running Thin
I’m in desperate need of some help. My sex life is ruining my relationship. I truly care for my boyfriend and other than our sex life, our relationship is pretty good. But lately… When we first started dating it took awhile for us to become intimate. Initially, I simply took it as him taking his time and was flattered that unlike other guys I dated, he was actually taking time getting to know me instead of trying to get in my pants. The first time we had sex, two months after we began dating, it was straightforward, missionary, no foreplay, like how you would imagine what would happen on “Leave It To Beaver” if they showed a sex scene… BORING! I chalked it up to him being nervous, again respectful of me, and next time he would loosen up and be more outgoing, adventurous, exciting. Nothing. Next time, almost 3 weeks later, same stale, conventional unsatisfying sex. I gave it one more chance and got the same results. I like this guy, but we are NOT sexually compatible. It’s not like I’m trying to reinvent karma sutra, but I do like variety and spice in the bedroom. Furthermore, when I’m in a relationship, I enjoy sex and want it often. It’s to the point I’m avoiding my boyfriend and making excuses not to see him. Worse, I’m pleasuring myself even though I’m in a relationship. Defeats the purpose don’t you think? If it doesn’t change soon, I don’t think it’s going to work out. I may risk losing an otherwise great guy, but I can’t continue like this. Help!
Asking someone out for a first date may be a daunting task in and of itself, but securing a second date is the real trick.
Many first-time daters fail to obtain that elusive second date because they inevitably shoot themselves in the foot. They said yes for the first date because it was something appealing about you, so what went wrong?
Here are three reasons why many daters are one and done:
I’m caught up in a serious predicament and I don’t know how to stop or get myself out of it. Since I broke up with my ex, I’ve remained single, not dating or any of the “perks” that come along with dating. The problems arose when I ran into my ex at a coffee shop we both frequented and enjoyed together. I really wasn’t expecting to see him there since he moved to another part of town after we split. That initial jolt and shock of seeing him brought back a slew of emotions. We separated amicably, so we sat down drinking our coffee and caught up on life. Of course one thing led to another and next thing you know we’re back at my place (our old place) having sex. This has reoccurred several times, 8 to be exact, over the past 3 months and every time we say that it’s not going to happen again, but it does. We also know we broke up in the first place for legitimate reasons and we’re not going to get back together, but we’re still having sex. How do I stop this and break apart for good?