Motivational Monday

Start the week on the right note. Motivate yourself and find inspiration all around you. The only thing holding you back is YOU!

Motivational Monday

Fotor_145252153992384There is no greater motivation than LIFE itself!  Tomorrow is not promised to anyone and at any giving moment, it can come to an end.  Today’s Motivational Monday is as personal as it gets as five years later I reflect on my sister who unknowingly helped to birth BrotherWord and all that has come to fruition.

The people around us affect us in so many ways without them even knowing and through those interactions, we discover who we are, what we are about, and in that rare occasion, they help us to unearth our God-given purpose.  Through my sister I learned that life is what we make of it, the lives we touch, and that fulfilling God’s purpose is the truest route to not only happiness on earth, but everlasting joy and peace.

Find what and whom motivates you to be your best and then latch on to them, learn from them, ask them questions, and most importantly, take the time to let them know that their life has and is making a difference on your life in return.  This thing we call life is shorter than we think and fleeing, so give those you love and cherish their flowers while they are breathing.

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5 years and running and still wondering why. Still questioning God, “Why she’s not still alive?  Why she had to die?  Yet no more tears left to cry.

How do you mourn when there’s so much pain?  When the grief hits so hard from just mentioning her name?

Where do you find comfort when you cannot find peace?  The memories begin to fade, the voice becomes a whisper, when the agony never seems to cease.  

How do you begin to move forward when the past keeps dragging you back? How do you let go of the hurt when every waking moment seems like an anxiety attack?

Look to the heavens from which your blessings flow, remember what you reap is also what you sow.  But when I look upward all I want is to see her face, but instead the clouds hide her and and I find myself in an empty space.

I’m thankful to God for the time spent, the laughter, the conversations, the hugs and the kisses, but what do you do when all you can think about is how much you miss her?

Counseling, communication, and church, nothing fills the void; and here we are 5 years later and it still feels like yesterday, one continuing, horrible nightmare, that has come forth to steal, kill, and destroy.

But the devil is a liar and my Christ is the forever joy that can make us whole, because even in death, Melissa transformed lives and saved countless souls.

5 years later and yes it still hurts, but as God as my witness and my sister as my motivation, I must continue their great works!

We each have a purpose and my angel’s work was done, so now it is up to us all to pick up the mantle and make sure that we complete our task before the setting of the sun.

Can never repay her for all that she gave nor all that she means, so I will live my life in her honor, never forgetting the love we share or the unbreakable bond, knowing she watches over me and I can see her my dreams.

Rest in paradise baby, you fought and won the battle, and Heaven is your reward.  Know that you taught your big brother more than you could ever know and now I live for us both as I edify our Lord.

Rest in paradise on your birthday as we blow out the candles wishing you nothing but peace; and know how much we love you and your memory and legacy shall live on and never cease.  © ~BrotherWord

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - My View 

How we view the world around us greatly shapes our outlook on life.  More often than not, if we see the world and our surroundings as dreary, gloomy, or overcast, more than likely, we view our life in the same manner.  But when we see the sun piercing through the rain, not only can we find a rainbow in the sky, but we can also find a silver lining in any situation.

Recently, I had an opportunity to literally change my view, to unplug, disconnect, and take in the scenery.  Not only was it an eye-opening experience, but it made me realize how bogged down I had become with the everyday hustle and grind.  Additionally, I discovered how conditioned my mind had become and distorted my view was now.  So consumed with life’s demands, I couldn’t see the forest for the trees and as cliché’ as that may sound, it was a reality I had orchestrated unknowingly.  

But as soon as I changed my view, not only could I see the forest, I could also free my mind to see far beyond my present circumstances.  Changing your view may take changing your surroundings, discovering new territories, visiting a new place, physically shifting the scene of your true to life stage play.  Do not fret if in this season you are not able to change scenery.  Our imagination can take us to any distant land we desire and can transform our world with the blink of an eye.  Physically, spiritually, metaphorically change your view.  Take a trip, whether it be a 100 miles away or thousands miles away, and see a different world from your daily perspective.  Discover all the wonders this world has to offer and in the meantime, remember in spite of any perceived ailments, life is as bright as we choose to see it.  Even if you cannot go any further than from one room to the other, look out a window, open a book, or simply close your eyes and let your mind take you to a new land.  Either way, do not let circumstances, fear, contentment, or anything stop you from exploring a new realm.

Changing your view does not mean you have to change your location.  It means changing your mindset so that the way you envision the world around you has a positive and enriching return.  We live our lives by how we see it.  Change your view from within and watch your world change on the outside.  Choose how you see the world and watch it bend to your will.  Shape the images of life as you see fit and watch life begin to unfold in ways never seen before.  Change your view and your life will become your personal rainbow dispatching any cloudy day.

Motivational Monday

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In 1994, Chicago based restaurant consultant, Allen H. Kelson, wrote an article entitled, The Ten Commandments for Menu Success, referring to food menu items.  Would if we applied some of those same principles to our everyday life and in our pursuit of accomplishing our dreams and goals, we had “commandments for everyday success?” Here are 5 life skills to finding success in all facets of life:

1.) Speak plainly.Speak those things as if they are. Have said it time and time again and I thoroughly believe and live by the mantra that our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our character, and our character becomes our destiny. Speak destiny over your life and remove negative thoughts, destructive actions, and anything that does personify a successful character. If you do speak positive into your life, why are you surprised when everything turns out negative?

2.) Say what is important. – Learn how to separate the important stuff from the frivolous. Do not get lost or distracted in the mundane, but instead focus on and put your energy to what is truly important. If it is not growing you, it is holding you back!

3.) Describe it completely.Write the vision and engrave it plainly on tablets, so that whoever reads it will run (takeoff). For the vision is yet for an appointed time, it hurries toward fulfillment, and will not fail. Though it may tarry, patiently wait for it, because it will surely come, it will not tarry. Describe your vision completely from inception to fruition, plainly laying out every detail so that as you continue on your journey you have a tangible blueprint to follow, mile markers to achieve, and you never lose site of the ultimate goal.

4.) Less is more. – Do not try to overdo or complicate things. Many times the road less traveled carries with it less traffic and far few more complications. Do not make things more difficult or cumbersome. “That which is less complicated is often better understood and more appreciated than what is more complicated; simplicity is preferable to complexity; brevity in communication is more effective than verbosity.” ~ Ludwig Miles van der Rohe

5.) Maintain a sense of perspective. – Everyday will not be the same nor will it turn out exactly as planned. It is vital to keep the proper perspective and remember the big picture. Just because something may not turn out as exactly expected or there may be a setback or detour in direction does not mean you have failed or it is time to scrap the whole idea. Remember, He that began a good work in you will perfect it (carry it on to completion) and remind yourself that you are just as dedicated to achieving it! Do not let perspective betray your progress or tarnish your purpose.

 

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Eagle

When God pushes you to the edge of difficulty, trust Him fully because two things can happen.  Either He can catch you when you fall or He will teach you how to fly!

Are you familiar with the story of the mother eagle?  She provides a nest for her eaglets, nurturing them, feeding them, protecting, and ensuring that they are well taken care of and have an opportunity to grow and experience what life has to offer.  But this is not a lifelong setting and soon the realities of life start to unfold.  Soon the mother eagle will take her offspring in her mouth, fly out the nest and release them!  As the baby eagle begins to descend, she swoops in, catching them and returning them to the nest.  The process is repeated over and over and she begins to disassemble the nest in the process as well.  

The purpose is multi-faceted:

1.) Encourage the offspring to fly and fulfill their potential.  By dropping them, they quickly learn how fleeing life can be and how at a moment’s notice you could be sitting up high and have it all come tumbling down.  In order to soar in life, you have to spread your wings and fly.

2.) To show them that life is not about being comfortable and no matter how much others may provide a comfortable environment, at some point each of us has to leave home and discover our own paths.

3.) That no matter how far we fall, those that love us and care about us will be there to catch us no matter what.  We all will fall short and at one point or another come crashing down, but there will still be those who care who will be there to soften the blow and rescue us for certain doom.

4.) To not be afraid of our potential and even if we are afraid, to overcome it.  We each have to discover who we are and what we are capable of and the only way to do that is my stepping out on faith!

Like the eaglets, many of us want to be at ease, no difficulties, and coasting through life, but it is the challenges of life that shape us and mold us into who we are destined to become.  Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.  

The challenge today is to let go of anything or anyone that is holding you back, anything that is stopping your from fulfilling your destiny, anything that is prevented you from spreading your wings and flying.  If it is not challenging you, it is not growing you, and anything that is not growing you is causing you to become stagnant and decay.  As uncomfortable and frightening as the ledge may seem, it isn’t until you take that leap that you realize you don’t have to fall, but instead roam the sky and discover new horizons.

“In the ashes of adversity, lies opportunity.” ~ S.L. Coelho

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Chances of Success

“Success is a planned outcome, not an accident. Success and mediocrity are both absolutely predictable because they follow the natural and immutable law of sowing and reaping. Simply stated, if you want to reap more rewards, you must sow more service, contribution, and value. That is the no-nonsense formula. Some of God’s blessings have prerequisites! Success in life is not based on need but on seed. So you’ve got to become good at either planting in the springtime or begging in the fall.” ~

Tom Newberry from Success Is Not an Accident: Change Your Choices; Change Your Life

 

Success does not happen by accident nor does it simply fall out the sky into one’s lap.  Success is based on effort, work, and honestly, being prepared when opportunity presents itself.  Any successful person will tell you it took years of trying, overcoming one failure after another, and continuing despite the odds or doubters.  Success is the byproduct of resiliency.  

Success is not something you can buy at a store, inherit, or just wake up.  If you want it, you have to go get it!  It begins with a mindset of “I refuse to quit or give up;” “I will not stop to achieve my goals;” “No matter what, I will not let it deter me from my destination.”  As cliché as it may sound, how you think, what you think, will ultimately dictate your outcome.  Can’t and won’t are not words of success, but will manifest if allowed.

What you sow is what you shall reap and sowing means planting good seed in fertile grounds and then tending to your crop.  Success is not a part time or seasonal job, but a calculated journey.  The next time you think it may be too much or feel you are not qualified, you are right!  If you feel you are undeserving, cannot live up to it, the challenge is too great, you are right!  But if you believe against all doubt, fight for your dreams, pursue with an unbridled passion, and put in maximum effort, success can and will be yours.

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Passion

Passion is an intense emotion, a compelling enthusiasm or desire, it is that thing that wakes you in the morning springing you out of the bed and keeps you up late at night focused on accomplishing all that you have set out to do.  Passion is what fuels the purpose and marries the two to change potential to a fulfilled promise!  Passion is the catalyst that sparks our hopes, dreams, and aspirations and drives you to achieve the unbelievable, obtain the unthinkable, and shatter any notions of doubt and fear.  What you are passionate about is what has been inbred in you and powers the journey ahead.  What is that you are passionate about?

Whatever you are passionate about, that one thing in this world you literally would do for free if there were no obstacles or fear of failure, follow it, pursue it, live in it, for it is there that you will not only find purpose, but also walk in God’s promise for your life.  God has given each of us specific talents and specific tools to accomplish a specific task.  Do not waste your tools or let them go rusty!  Walk in your purpose and feed off your passion; the promise will not come back void!

I challenge each of you to trust whatever it is that moves you and excites you, research it, study it, practice it, and use it!  It is there for a reason, so stop running from it and denying it.  Live the life that was purposed for you and soak up every bit of it.  Let your passion light up the world and all you encounter leaving a mark that will transcend and surpass your wildest fantasies.  You are more than if only you believe.

Living on #Purpose fueled by #Passion and striving towards #Destiny.  Have you found your passion?  Are you ready to channel it to achieve your dreams?

 Follow your passion, be prepared to work hard and sacrifice, and, above all, don’t let anyone limit your dreams.” ~ Donovan Bailey

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Take Risks

Recently there was a story about a McDonald’s employee who was swapping the happy meal toys with his mixtape.  Crazy right?  Definitely was not the market for the material he was attempting to promote and ultimately, it cost him his job, but I do applaud him for ingenuity and creativity.

Sometimes in order to advance and achieve your goals, you have to take risks… even if they appear completely insane.  Risk takers are the ones that shape the world, the ones that revolutionize the way we think, and bring reality to what was once thought to be a far-fetched imagination.  People thought the Wright brothers were delusional until they actually took flight.  People once thought the Earth to be a flat surface until that myth was debunked.  The world wide web was not even fathomable until a group of scientists, researchers, and engineers made it possible.  The common denominator in all of these events and so many more that have shaped the world is that someone threw caution to the wind, believed in themselves and their dream, and despite all odds and doubts, set out to make history.

The McDonald’s employee chose the wrong platform to promote his music, but at least he took a chance on making something happen.  If you are sitting around waiting for the right opportunity, you are fooling yourself.  Opportunity happens with you are active.  If you are scared to take risks, then you are content with failing.  If you are consumed with what others think and how they will react, you will never discover who you truly are meant to be.  You cannot live life worrying about what others will think nor can you go on with life always playing it safe.

Life is truly about calculated risks that produce phenomenal rewards.  So the next time you are weighing the risk/reward scenario, keep in mind that if you never do, you will never know.  People called Franklin a lunatic for his experimentations with electricity, but without him, we could possibly still be living in the dark ages!

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Commitment

“The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.” – Vince Lombardi

Anything worth having in life is worth giving your all to.  Life is not an accident, it is earned!  That dream you have, the passion burning inside, the goals you have set are all possible if you are willing to commit and strive for excellence.  Nothing is impossible.  When no one thought it was feasible to fly, Wilbur and Orville Wright believed it possible and did not stop until they achieved it.  Are you not ready for your life to take flight, to soar to new heights, to experience things once only dreamed of?  Then commit!

Commit with all your heart, all your desire, and all your energy.  If it is truly your dream to accomplish whatever it may be, then it will take everything you have!  The definition of commitment means to be dedicated, loyal to a person or cause, a promise.  Make a promise to yourself today.  Remain dedicated to the task and loyal to your ambitions.  No matter what may arise, keep your promise.  Commit to excellence and let nothing or no one deter you from your path.  The worst promise to break is the one you make to yourself and if it is your desire, commit to it until it comes to pass.  Commit like never before, lock in, and like a dog with a bone, do not let go!  Whatever is meant for you, is for YOU!  So no matter how long the journey, how many obstacles may arise, or whatever pops up along the way, remember what you committed to and why.  Time to get to work!

“We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, therefore is not an act, but a habit.” ~ Aristotle

“Productivity is never an accident.  It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.” ~ Paul J. Meyer

“Desire is the key to motivation, but it’s determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal – a commitment to excellence – that will enable you to attain the success you seek.” ~ Mario Andretti

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Power of the Mind

As a man thinketh, so is he.  Whatever consumes our mind, consumes our life and whatever constantly permeates our dreams, our thoughts, our conscious and subconscious, that is where our heart lies and what our energy goes toward.  Once we begin controlling what controls our thoughts we will begin to see our lives shape in the ways in which we desire.  The most powerful thing any of us possesses is the power of our mind.  Anything we think can be achieved and vice versa, any doubts will allow to manifest can cripple and destroy.

An old Cherokee teaching his grandson about life told a story about a battle inside all of us. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.  “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.  ”The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”  The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Which will you feed?

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Breaths

Life is full of mysteries and wonders, many of which cannot be explained and some, no matter how hard you may try, are beyond understanding and comprehension.  And then there are the rare miracles, God’s treats and marvelous anomalies that no matter how bewildering to the mind, are amazing and spectacular nonetheless.  It may be a rainbow in the middle of a storm, the birth of a child, or the dawning of a new day.  These miracles, huge or small, still happen daily and unlike biblical times and such phenomenons as the parting of the red sea, they may not be as recognizable, but when they happen, you will still feel the effect.  One miracle many saw and a lucky few were able to witness and experience up close and personal has been Khyrstin “Kyssi” Andrews. (more…)

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