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Ask BrotherWord – Losing Her
BrotherWord,
I can use your advice. My lady and I have been together a little over a year and lately I feel like we are drifting apart. The vibe we once shared has dwindled considerably and the moments we used to share are few and far in between. We once shared a connection that I had never experienced but as of lately, we have become distant. I’m not sure what has changed, but something definitely has. I have a million thoughts running through my mind about what could be going on, none of which are good. She means everything to me and I am willing to do whatever it takes to salvage our relationship. Please help me.
Sincerely,
Losing Her
Ask BrotherWord – Not Satisfied
by BrotherWord©™
in Ask BrotherWord
Dear BrotherWord,
I’m in desperate need of some help. My sex life is ruining my relationship. I truly care for my boyfriend and other than our sex life, our relationship is pretty good. But lately… When we first started dating it took awhile for us to become intimate. Initially, I simply took it as him taking his time and was flattered that unlike other guys I dated, he was actually taking time getting to know me instead of trying to get in my pants. The first time we had sex, two months after we began dating, it was straightforward, missionary, no foreplay, like how you would imagine what would happen on “Leave It To Beaver” if they showed a sex scene… BORING! I chalked it up to him being nervous, again respectful of me, and next time he would loosen up and be more outgoing, adventurous, exciting. Nothing. Next time, almost 3 weeks later, same stale, conventional unsatisfying sex. I gave it one more chance and got the same results. I like this guy, but we are NOT sexually compatible. It’s not like I’m trying to reinvent karma sutra, but I do like variety and spice in the bedroom. Furthermore, when I’m in a relationship, I enjoy sex and want it often. It’s to the point I’m avoiding my boyfriend and making excuses not to see him. Worse, I’m pleasuring myself even though I’m in a relationship. Defeats the purpose don’t you think? If it doesn’t change soon, I don’t think it’s going to work out. I may risk losing an otherwise great guy, but I can’t continue like this. Help!
Not Satisfied
Thankful Thursdays!
One of the greatest feelings in the world is to know you’re not alone. Having someone to confide in and call upon when times are difficult is a comforting and securing feeling that can’t easily be replaced. I am so THANKFUL to have people in my life who are more than family and friends, but confidants, listeners, and sounding boards. They uplift and support me and add an element of belonging. I’m THANKFUL for the ability to speak without being judged, to express without being looked down upon, to converse freely without condemnation, and to express my feelings without them being dismissed.
Communication is the key to life and when you’re able to share dialogue openly and honestly, it is a gratifying feeling. Take time to speak with your loved ones; more importantly, make time to listen to them. The best gift you can give to someone is to listen to them and let them know what they think and how they feel is as important to you as it is to them. Show them how THANKFUL you are for their thoughts and opinions and they’ll be just as THANKFUL to have a voice.
Are you THANKFUL for those around you and the freedom they afford you to share your voice? How does communication play a part in your THANKFULNESS? Share your thoughts with #BrotherWord and THANK YOU for listening.
Money Talks
Brother Word,
I make more money than my husband and it has caused issues in our marriage and is a constant source of discontent between my husband and me. I’m not sure how to resolve this issue or how to appease my husband’s pride and dignity. Is this an issue of my husband being uncomfortable not being the main bread winner or a sense of embarrassment amongst our peers? How can we move past this?
Sincerely,
Money Talks
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