Posts tagged Destiny

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Detour

Have you ever had a certain vision or image in mind or a design or pattern in which you think things should happen or unfold only for it not to remotely resemble what you envisioned?  It can be frustrating and deflating, but do not let the detour deter the dream!

The beauty of dreams are that they are organic, fluid, ever evolving, and just because they may start one way, it is not unusual for them to take an alternate route.  What so many of us miss is the beauty and message discovered in the detour.  A detour does not necessarily mean you have been knocked off course, but instead reveals another way in which to reach your destiny.  A detour is not a dead end!

You may have a usual route you take daily to and from work.  After awhile, your vehicle could pretty much drive itself home.  It becomes bland, mundane, and unadventurous.  But now there is construction or an accident and you have been detoured and forced to take an unfamiliar passage.  Although this new direction is foreign, it yields its own perks.  You get to see new parts of the city, come across new establishments, and because it is new, your every sense is titillated, soaking in the fresh and fascinating scenery.

Same with life.  Sometimes in life we get knocked off course for one reason or another or without rhyme or rationale, the course simply changes.  Do not let the detour deter the dream.  Although the road you traverse my change, it is the journey that should be cherished.  Destiny is not determined by where you start, so no matter where you start or which roads you travel, your destiny is married to your willingness to withstand and continue on no matter where the roads lead.  

Enjoy the detours life present.  They offer us all an opportunity to experience new things we may have otherwise missed, to see new outlooks, and to learn alternate ways to reach our destiny.  Detours also shield us from harm and protect us from unknown mishaps.  Our detours remind us to be patient and to soak in the journey, not overlooking or ignoring the paths we travel or taking for granted the experiences that help us to grow.  Remember, the detour does not deter the dream; it develops the destiny!

“The most fulfilling adventures happen when you start your journey without knowing where you’re going, because only then are you free to experience the unexpected detours you’re meant to take.” ~ A.J. Darkholme

“I think that you have to believe in your destiny; that you will succeed.  You will meet a lot of rejection and it is not always a straight path, there will be detours – so enjoy the view.” ~ Michael York

Part of reaching your destiny is understanding your detours.” ~ Tony Eavns

Thankful Thursdays!

BrotherWord - Dreams Come True

As kids we have a pure innocence that knows no boundaries and our dreams are as large and as magnanimous as our imagination can take us.  As we grow older and experience life more, we become jaded and lose that virtue, become cynical, and our dreams are not as vivid as they once were.  I am so THANKFUL that the world does not dictate the outcome of our dreams and if we are courageous enough to forge ahead in spite of all or any obstacles, our dreams can still come true.

I am very THANKFUL that dreams never die.  They may become dormant or even forgotten, and in worse cases, given up on, but that precious dream still lies within and is just waiting to be stirred up, shaken awake, and pursued again.  Life will take you on many twists and turns, derailing your thoughts, detouring your focus, and dividing your time, but is it not amazing how one glimmer of hope, one leap of faith, can redirect you and put you right on course to achieving your deepest desires and wildest dreams!

What is a real miracle is how even when you may quit on your dream, it never quit on you and when least expected, that dream that you no longer thought of, considered a possibility, or even fathom any longer has now come to fruition.  THANKFUL for dreams beyond reality and greater than doubt and fear.  THANKFUL for the little kid in me who still remembers that anything I believe, if I so desire and am willing to put in the work, I can achieve it!

THANKFUL that dreams are windows to our heart’s desires, our mind’s infatuations, and our soul’s purpose-filled destiny.  THANKFUL that our greatest dreams somehow formulate a blueprint and road that lead to our greatest joy. Dream on my friend…

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” ~ Harriet Tubman

“Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.” ~ Langston Hughes

The Future is Yours

BrotherWord - Class of 2015

As you embark on this next phase of life, if you remember nothing else, remember that your destiny is whatever you choose.  Many will try to tell you that your destiny is predetermined and already set in stone, but nothing can be further from the truth!  Who you are and who you will become will ultimately be determined by what you do from this moment forward.

You have already attained one phenomenal feat, graduation!  The importance of the next leg of the journey is not necessarily where you are headed, but the steps in which you get there.  Whether you graduated from high school or college, each of you has come to a realization that the past comforts of life are fading away and the true essence of living is just beginning.  Decisions and consequences take on a new meaning and the shield of parental influences or family and friends who have blocked harm and nudged you in one direction or another, is no longer as accessible.  Today marks the journey of self-realization.  It is exciting and frightening at the same time, but rest assured, it is a journey we all have traversed and equally thrived in.  There is no reason to think you cannot do the same. (more…)

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Challenge You
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone – Neale Donald Walsch

Life truly begins the moment we step out of our comfort zones and are forced to explore the unknown.  Skating through life on easy street, avoiding any and everything that appears complicated, and afraid to adventure into the unknown is a sure-fired way to live a stagnant life void of the euphoria of discovery.

It is a testament of faith and determination and there is no doubt that if things in life do not challenge you on a cerebral, physiological, psychological, and emotional level, there is no way growth can take place.  Challenge may be the cause, but change is the effect to help you discover your inner depth.  Life is meant to challenge you because with each challenge, a new layer is revealed and you will discover the prowess of your talents, a deeper desire to succeed, and uncanny ability to overcome life’s trials.  With every challenge you will be forced to venture from what is comfortable to something that may be unfamiliar, but is uplifting.  

Let go of the fear of the unknown.  The moon was unknown until someone dared to send a man into space.  Electricity was unknown until someone challenged contemporary thought and ignored the naysayers.  The list goes on and on about all the wonders of life that would have never happened if someone did not decide to challenge the conventional in order to change the future.  What is challenging you to make the change the change of your life and are you willing to walk in the unknown to chase your dreams?

Change is not a bad thing, especially when that change is the first step towards destiny.  Never again let comfortability stifle your growth.  If the caterpillar remained on the ground, comfortable to crawl around, afraid of change, how would it ever turn into the beautiful butterfly?  When you remain in your comfort zone, you remain grounded, doomed to wallow the on the dirt.  But when you accept change, dare to discover the unknown, this is when you sprout wings and gain the ability to fly high, cover new terrain, and see wonders never imagined.  

The comfort zone is the great enemy to creativity; moving beyond it necessitates intuition, which in turn configures new perspectives and conquers fears. ~ Dan Stevens
You should not remain in your comfort zone; if you want to make it big, you must challenge yourself, get out of your comfort zone, and succeed in doing well outside of your comfort areas. ~ Rohit Sharma

Be willing to step outside your comfort zone once in a while; take the risks in life that seem worth taking. The ride might not be as predictable if you’d just planted your feet and stayed put, but it will be a heck of a lot more interesting. ~ Edward Whitacre, Jr.

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Motivatonal Monday

There will come a time in life when the cheering comes to a deafening silence and the outpour of support dwindles away like  a puff of smoke.  It is in this moment that you will be left contemplating how could it have all gone so drastically wrong, but this is not the time to throw in the towel.  Instead, this is the first of many opportunities to look in the mirror and summon all the courage you can muster, and continue to forge ahead.  This is the time when all that is left is to encourage yourself.

Not everyone will see your vision or be able to go the distance with you, but that is not as important as what you see or how you see yourself.  @PastorJ_HigherD candidly states, “Your next choice will determine your destiny,” and it is here and now where the rubber meets the road.  What you see in the mirror will ultimately determine where you go and who you shall become.  Do you see yourself as the meek, minute house cat or the strong, powerful king of the jungle?  The vision you cast of yourself is greater than the vision you are trying to bring to fruition.

When all else fails and everyone else bails, you have to be able to turn within to discover an inner strength.  This is paramount in your quest and one of the most vital components you will need along your journey.  Many will come and just as many will go, but the one constant is the man in the mirror.  Who you see is what matters most because the image the mirror reflects is a precursor to your future.  Stand tall and gaze in the mirror at your greatest asset – yourself.

Unfortunately, people shall come in like a whirlwind eager to assist and be a part of something, anything, until it either requires them to actively contribute or they move on to the next shiny thing.  Guard your heart, protect your vision, and build your foundation so strong that when all around you begins to crumble, you still are standing firmly in your faith, conviction, and purpose.  Ever noticed the sideview mirror that reads, “Images in mirror may be closer than they appear?”  It is because the mirror only reflects a small scale version of the greater vision, a vision that only the person looking in the mirror is truly aware of!  Remember, whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way, you’re right and it all starts with who you see in the mirror.

Thankful Thursdays!

BrotherWord - Thankful Thursday!

I’m so THANKFUL for life’s experiences.  Every experience may not be pleasant but they are the building blocks that shape us.  Experience teaches so many valuable lessons and as long as the lesson has been learned, the reward is worth any struggle.  Embrace your experiences, digest them, and use very experience as a springboard to reach new heights.  Let each experience, good or bad, make you that much bolder to seek new adventures, to reach a little further, and to become that much braver as you navigate life.  Hiding in the shadows and allowing fear to dictate your next move is not living.  The only way to experience life is to live it!

I’ve used the following quote many times and it has blessed me in so many ways and I am very THANKFUL for everything it represents.  What it sums up is that life’s experiences formulate our being in so many ways and each experience is another tool to help build our dreams and steer us to our destiny.


Experience has taught me who I am; as a man thinketh, so is he.  Experience has shown me that I possess every thing I need to succeed; what I speak shall come into existence. Experience has taught me that although I may fail or fall at times, I am not a failure and I can rise again; my actions are teaching moments and every action segues into a new degree of mental and emotional awareness.  Experience has given me discernment in selecting my friends and peers and also has helped determined what to pursue and what to let go.  The habits I practice are learned behavior the have fortified my morals and ethical approach to life.  Experience has afforded me the ability to trust my instincts, believe in myself, and rely on my abilities and developed my character as a man, Christian, brother, friend, counselor, life coach, speaker, and server of mankind.  Experience has provided the life lessons and tools to pursue my dreams with confidence and vigor.  Experience has made me appreciate what’s most important and be THANKFUL for what I have.  Experience has caused me to appreciate both closed doors and opportunity knocking.  Experience continues to give me hope and pushes me daily to my destiny.

No matter what life throws at you, never shy away from the experience.  It is what is used to prepare you for the next phase and what will provide you with the skill set to handle the next challenge.  Embrace your experiences and own every one as it develops and drives you to your destiny!  The more you THINK, the more you THANK and I couldn’t be more THANKFUL for life’s experiences as they have shaped me into who I am and allowed me to share those experiences with people worldwide, bettering their lives and giving them hope.

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ~ C.G. Jung

“The person who has lived the most is not the one with the most years, but the one with the richest life experiences.” ~ Jean Jacques Rousseau


Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Motivation

Sometimes you have to will yourself to triumph.  When the walls begin to close in and all your energy has been zapped, sheer willpower can propel you to victory.  It will drive you to push further, dig deeper, and reach higher, because no one else can do it for you and when there is nothing else left in the tank, it may be all you have.  Do not allow anything to deter you from your path or discourage you from your destiny.  When all looks bleak and everyone else has given up hope, will yourself to go beyond the ordinary and discover the sublime!  What you find will change you forever.


Every day is another opportunity to achieve greatness and if you aren’t willing to put in the work, be ready to continually fail.  Life provides the opportunities, but you have to put forth the effort.  Start now or live with regret later.  No one ever said it would be easy, but would it be worth it if it was?  Time to embrace the moment and ride it for all it’s worth.

BrotherWord - Self Motivation

“I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do. And by the grace of God, I will.”

~ Edward Everett Hale


Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Motivational Monday

How often do so many allow themselves to be labeled by others, ultimately being boxed in, and relinquishing all power, allowing someone else to dictate their destiny?  Many times people assume the labels put on them by their family, friends, and society and instead of proving them wrong and rising above the stereotypes, many take on a persona they were never meant to inherit. (more…)

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Motivational Monday

Life is a constant test that will pull you in directions you never intended to go, that will challenge you beyond anything you ever thought you were capable of enduring, and will break you down and build you up all at the same time.  Life is the ultimate test, a test full of irony and enigmas.  It is the only test in which you don’t know the answers until after you have taken the test.

The beauty of life though is that it provides a testimony from the test, an experience to draw back upon and recall for posterity.  The lessons learned through daily living are irreplaceable and often times, inspiring.  The trials we face may seem insurmountable, but as Nelson Mandela is quoted as saying, “Difficulties break some men, but make others.”  How we handle life’s difficulties will ultimately determine the path we travel.

Hardships are never pleasant, but they can be building blocks.  Take the time to understand that life will happen and not everything can be controlled, but the one thing we all have control over is ourselves.  Work toward solutions and not dwelling in sorrow.  Mandela also said, “I am the master of my fate and the captain of my destiny,” and while in prison he recited daily William Ernest Henley’s poem, Invictus.

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

Do not let the trials of life stop you from becoming the person you are destined to become or achieving all that has been purposed for your life.  Inspiration and motivation abounds around us, as well as the tools necessary to persevere and reach new plateaus.  Today is your day to turn your test into a testimony!

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Motivatonal Monday

What are you willing to sacrifice to attain your dream?  What lengths are you willing to go to bring your vision to life?  If money was not an issue or deterrent, what would you do for a living?  Whatever that answer is for you, START DOING IT RIGHT NOW!  You know your purpose and have a glimpse of the destiny ahead.  Stop letting bumps destroy the dream.  Pain is a good thing at times; it reminds us that we’re alive and we can overcome.  Embrace the challenges, the obstacles, and the perils of life.  They are temporary and they are building blocks to better your future.  Whatever it is that has been ignited in your soul, take control of that fire and let it simmer.  The hotter it gets, like gold, the better you shine; like a hot air balloon, the higher you rise; and like a volcano, the greater you erupt.  Today is the day to become all you know you can be and to take hold of your own destiny!

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.” ~ Vince Lombardi
“When I dare to be powerful – to use my strength in the service of my vision – then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” ~ Audre Lorde
Go to Top