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Thankful Thursday – World Gratitude Day

Today is World Gratitude Day!  I am beyond excited to watch the world take a moment to express gratitude to each other.  We all often become consumed by the daily grind, trying to cram all we can into twenty-four hours and finding ourselves overwhelmed with deadlines, responsibilities, tasks, the whims of others, and our own personal needs.  Whew… that is a lot just thinking about it.  But today, let’s take a moment to just be grateful for the here and now, the sun rising, the roof over our head, the family and friends in our lives, the jobs we have, things as simple as the breathe in our lungs and the shining of the sun on our face.  You have often heard me say, The More You Think, The More You Thank© and especially on #WorldGratitudeDay, take the time to think about all the things you can be thankful for.

Here are a few quick and easy ways to celebrate World Gratitude Day… and every day:

1.)  Put on your favorite song this morning and sing along with it out loud and dance like there is no tomorrow.  You’ll be surprised how giddy you will feel and invigorating it is to be free and enjoying the moment.

2.) List {BrotherWord – Gratitude Day}10 things you are grateful for and write them out.  Do not over think it, but write the first ten things that come to mind.  After writing them out, place the list somewhere you can see it all day.  Writing your grateful items out will help you to realize the blessings in your life and viewing them throughout the day is a great reminder and anecdote if the day becomes a little hectic.

3.) Reach out to your circle and let them know how grateful you are for them.  It is nothing like being appreciated and acknowledged; it boosts the energy of the receiver and comforts the giver.  It is a kinetic enlightenment that is contagious and transformative.

4.) Do one thing for yourself today that you have been meaning to do and have been putting off.  Nothing major, just a simple gesture.  Start reading that book, go to the gym, cook that dish, call that friend you have been meaning to check on, take a bubble bath, simply take a moment to pamper yourself and accomplish a personal goal.  Take a quiet moment to read and reflect on a devotional or meditate in silence concentrating on your breathing as you inhale and exhale and calming your inner being.  Being grateful also means caring for yourself and embracing life to the fullest, even in the simplest of ways.

5.) Touch someone in the community and remind them too that there are many things which we can be grateful for.  Especially in light of the recent hurricanes, Harvey, Irma, and now Maria, many are still suffering and recovering, and any ray of hope and happiness can do a wonder of good.  Share your gratitude by helping those in need, volunteering at a shelter or food bank, helping clean a home or neighborhood, or just being kind to a complete stranger for nothing more than the sake of being kind.  FYI: Hugs and thank yous can lift the spirit in unbelievable ways.

Hopefully these ideas will help you to celebrate World Gratitude Day and start great habits for everyday.  A grateful heart is one that remembers and celebrates, it heals and consoles, and is thankful for it all.  Be Great-Full Today!

Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others. ~ Cicero

Motivational Monday

Fotor_145252153992384There is no greater motivation than LIFE itself!  Tomorrow is not promised to anyone and at any giving moment, it can come to an end.  Today’s Motivational Monday is as personal as it gets as five years later I reflect on my sister who unknowingly helped to birth BrotherWord and all that has come to fruition.

The people around us affect us in so many ways without them even knowing and through those interactions, we discover who we are, what we are about, and in that rare occasion, they help us to unearth our God-given purpose.  Through my sister I learned that life is what we make of it, the lives we touch, and that fulfilling God’s purpose is the truest route to not only happiness on earth, but everlasting joy and peace.

Find what and whom motivates you to be your best and then latch on to them, learn from them, ask them questions, and most importantly, take the time to let them know that their life has and is making a difference on your life in return.  This thing we call life is shorter than we think and fleeing, so give those you love and cherish their flowers while they are breathing.

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5 years and running and still wondering why. Still questioning God, “Why she’s not still alive?  Why she had to die?  Yet no more tears left to cry.

How do you mourn when there’s so much pain?  When the grief hits so hard from just mentioning her name?

Where do you find comfort when you cannot find peace?  The memories begin to fade, the voice becomes a whisper, when the agony never seems to cease.  

How do you begin to move forward when the past keeps dragging you back? How do you let go of the hurt when every waking moment seems like an anxiety attack?

Look to the heavens from which your blessings flow, remember what you reap is also what you sow.  But when I look upward all I want is to see her face, but instead the clouds hide her and and I find myself in an empty space.

I’m thankful to God for the time spent, the laughter, the conversations, the hugs and the kisses, but what do you do when all you can think about is how much you miss her?

Counseling, communication, and church, nothing fills the void; and here we are 5 years later and it still feels like yesterday, one continuing, horrible nightmare, that has come forth to steal, kill, and destroy.

But the devil is a liar and my Christ is the forever joy that can make us whole, because even in death, Melissa transformed lives and saved countless souls.

5 years later and yes it still hurts, but as God as my witness and my sister as my motivation, I must continue their great works!

We each have a purpose and my angel’s work was done, so now it is up to us all to pick up the mantle and make sure that we complete our task before the setting of the sun.

Can never repay her for all that she gave nor all that she means, so I will live my life in her honor, never forgetting the love we share or the unbreakable bond, knowing she watches over me and I can see her my dreams.

Rest in paradise baby, you fought and won the battle, and Heaven is your reward.  Know that you taught your big brother more than you could ever know and now I live for us both as I edify our Lord.

Rest in paradise on your birthday as we blow out the candles wishing you nothing but peace; and know how much we love you and your memory and legacy shall live on and never cease.  © ~BrotherWord

Thankful Thursdays

 

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Colossians 3:15-17 – And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

On a day full of things to be THANKFUL for, I am truly THANKFUL for life’s teaching moments and learning what is truly important.  I know and have seen, and honestly have been one of those people who thought happiness came through the pursuit of power, possessions, and people and did not realize that real happiness is only found within.  I am so THANKFUL on this Thanksgiving for an inner peace.   (more…)

Heaven Is Smiling

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Heaven Is Smiling

 

It seems like yesterday when the pearly gates opened and welcomed you home;

4 years later and your presence, or should I say your absence, still rings strong.

The glue, the beauty, the laughter, the one who held us down and held us together, without you, our family just isn’t the same;

Despite the time that has lapsed and all that has happened since, I still find myself calling your name.

Melissa Anne Moore, my sister, confidant, ride or die, my friend;

It couldn’t be more true when they say all good things will come to an end.

I used to ask God why, it’s too soon, we still had things to do;

Little did I understand that your work was done, your purpose fulfilled, and your time here was through.

You were born so I could live;

Not because of illness or necessity, but to teach me what it meant to truly give.

Give of your time, tools, and talents, because our days are numbered;

This life we have is a one shot deal before we reach that eternal slumber.

Through you I discovered purpose and passion and was introduced to a life that transcends time;

Who would have known that after you entered the Omega chapter, I’d become part of the oldest and coldest of the Divine 9.

How I wish you could have been here, seen me cross those burning sands as I saw you 15 years ago;

But I sensed your spirit, heard a whisper, and felt your heavenly touch, I could hear the trumpets in heaven blow.

Life is different, my world not the same, and what I wouldn’t do for one last talk;

But I accept God’s will is better than my understanding and I thank Him for length of our walk.

Today is your birthday and we will continue to praise God’s name and celebrate your life;

 I will continue to honor your name and carry your torch and legacy you started is now my plight.

As we think of  how much we miss you, we may shed a few tears, laugh at the memories, and remember the good times as we travel the miles;

As much as I miss you, I thank God for the time we had and when it’s all said and done, I can see Heaven smile. ©

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#AskBrotherWord – Family Dinner

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Dear BrotherWord,

With the holidays approaching, I am dreading family dinner.  Between my sister who is still holding on to past issues (I am married to the man who used to be her high school sweetheart), to my in-laws who wish their son was married to my sister, to a mother I can never seem to please, a 14 year old who works my last nerve, and not enough time in the day to get everything done, I am dreading this year’s family dinner more than usual.  Please tell me how do I get through the holidays without it turning into a complete disaster?

Yours Truly,

Holiday Horror Show

 

Hi Holiday Horror Show (Wow!),

No one should dread spending time with family, especially during the holidays.  What is supposed to be a time of cheer and happiness can quickly turn into conflict and discord if steps are taken to ease the tension.

The first option is to handle the things you have control over.  Your sister still harboring ill will or your in-laws dwelling on what they wish would have been are beyond your scope.  The one thing you can do is go to each of them and express how it has and continues to make you feel.  Explain to your sister that you understand why she may feel as she does and that regardless of what took place, she is still your sister and that relationship is important to you.  Not knowing how you came to marry you sister’s high school sweetheart, it is plausible that a mix of emotions surround the circumstances.  Nonetheless, that was the past and this is the present.  There is a way to move forward, rebuild and reestablish that sisterly bond if both of you are willing to try.

Your in-laws, that is a different approach altogether.  How they feel is less important than if they respect you and your marriage.  It is time that boundaries and understanding are established.  Their son, your husband, chose to marry you and as such, they need to come to terms with that and get on board.  What they may have wanted for their son, what they envisioned, what they hoped for, was their whimsical wishes and obviously he had other plans.  It is time for them to accept that and it may take a heart-to-heart that includes them and the backing of your husband for them to let go of what could have been and what actually exists.  This conversation albeit tough, can and should be handled with love and respect.  Remember, they are still you husband’s parents, your daughter’s grandparents, and your extended family.  As much as you may want to Bewitch them and make them disappear, it is just not that simple.

Your daughter… that appears to be teenage angst.  I can imagine like most of us, you too worked your parents nerves every now and then.  One of the simplest ways to find common ground is to work on common objectives.  As much as she may fight against your every effort, building traditions and memories opens lines of communication and begins to build a rapport that leads to understanding and less conflict.  The holidays are a great time to start family traditions and mend broken fences.  Do not let another opportunity pass to build a better relationship with your daughter.

Last, but certainly not least, do not over-stress or put undue pressure on yourself to please everyone.  That is an impossible task and the true essence and purpose of the holidays is to come together, family and friends and share holiday cheer.  The sensationalization and obsessive shopping has clouded and degraded what the holidays were meant for.  It was never about the biggest or shiniest gift, but all about gathering together to celebrate the blessings of the season.  If you focus on that, what the holiday season really represents, I guarantee you will delight in the holiday spirit.  

This year, build a new family tradition.  Instead of shopping to you drop, volunteer as a family spreading love and happiness to those less fortunate.  Adopt another family and help them experience holiday cheer and some of the magic of the season.  Start rebuilding the cohesiveness of your family by coming together, starting anew, and sharing joy and yule tidings to one and all.

Family and Future

Family

The death of a loved one is never easy.  That sense of separation and hurt is indescribable and there is very little that can soothe or comfort.  What does make a difference is support; support from family and friends and strangers alike.  It is normal to grieve, but how does a 17-year-old cope with finding their mother deceased?  Like anyone else, they keep going and lean on those closest to them.  Look at this heart-warming video and witness the purest form of family.  The shortcomings of our youth are constantly pointed out, but yesterday’s story and this one are shining examples of a bright future.

 Source: James Rose – KDFW – @Fox4

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Head of Household

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With the progression of women’s power in the workplace, the idea of “head of household” has become an area of contention in some homes and relationships.  Sure, from a biblical stance there are many scripture verses that allude to the theory that simply being male makes one the head of the household.  Many women today scoff at this notion and have begun to rebel against ideals. (more…)

Motivational Monday

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How do you find motivation knowing a piece of you will not be there to witness the finished product?  When your driving force and inspiration is no longer present to push you, cheer you on, and support you at every turn?  What do you do when you do not have the muster or the strength to continue?  When your heart is hurting and spirit broken and the only question you have is “why,” how can you possibly find motivation?

You keep LIVING!  Life was meant to live.  No one ever said it would be easy or fair, but one thing is for sure, we all get an opportunity to live the lives we desire and to pursue our dreams.  What you make of life is solely an individual journey.  Live the life you have to the fullest, embrace and soak all of it in, the great times and the difficult times, and make the most of every chance you get.  Opportunity will come, second chances not as often, so seize each moment, learn from them, and cherish them as though it may be your last.

We do not know the day or the time when we no longer will be able to pursue our hopes and aspirations; please, no more delays.  And if you can not find the motivation within, sit at the feet of your elders and soak up their knowledge and invaluable experiences.  What you may think are funny or outlandish anecdotes are actually blueprints of guidance that will lead to longevity and prosperity.  Motivation is where you find or better yet, through whom it is delivered.

My motivation has come through a lineage of phenomenal people who have poured into me and blessed me beyond measure.  When I was lost and confused, I did not have to look any further than family photos.  We may not all have family ties to pull us through the fire, but we all can find motivating factors in someone, even a stranger.  Do not let life tear you down or steal your joy, but face it head own, head held high, and no matter what happens, keep going!

What motivates you will be different than what motivates others, but what we all have in common is that we have one life to live.  Make the most of yours!

Jimmie Moore Sr

 

 

~ Dedicated to Jimmie Moore, Sr., a “man and a half,” a son, a brother, a husband, a father, a grandfather, an uncle, a friend, a MOTIVATION and INSPIRATION to all he knew.  We love you Papa!

 

 

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Motivational Monday - Life

Sometimes life is completely unfair and everything you thought was possible, everything you thought you still had time for, just doesn’t work out as planned.  But what you do with the time you have is what matters the most.  We’ve all heard that where you start and where you end isn’t as important as the journey in between.  What will your dash say about you?

Just as quickly as plans change, so do people adapt.  Stop letting the changes in life halt you from living!  Each moment of life is what you make of it, so you can either decide to crumble under the trials of life or use it as stepping stones to climb higher.  Motivation comes in many forms and how you harness that energy and allow it to manifest is a testament to your character and ultimately, the legacy you leave behind.

I had the pleasure and honor of watching a man live life to the fullest, making sure every moment he had mattered.  Unbeknownst to him, he left an impression on me that will never be forgotten and how he lived his life inspired so many.  Unfortunately, his life was cut way too short and as we celebrate the life he lived, he made sure to leave a reminder of what living is about – “Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”

Timothy Marsh, knowing that his time in this realm was limited, ensured that his daughters would not forget how much their father loved them nor would his presence not be felt on their wedding days.  Please take a moment to watch the videos below and as you are watching them, soak in the experience as you realize that no matter what life may throw at you, when it is all said and done, you still have the opportunity to swing back!  Tim didn’t succumb or stop living, but used each breath to make an impact, an impact that will motivate others and bring joy for years to come.  Thank you for being an inspiration and motivation Tim; gone too soon, but your legacy shall live on.  Rest in Power and in Peace!

Sorrow not if, in these days and on this earthly plane, things contrary to your wishes have been ordained and manifested by God, for days of blissful joy, of heavenly delight, are assuredly in store for you. Worlds, holy and spiritually glorious, will be unveiled to your eyes. You are destined by Him, in this world and hereafter, to partake of their benefits, to share in their joys, and to obtain a portion of their sustaining grace. To each and every one of them you will, no doubt, attain.” ~ Gleanings From the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh

 

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#Ask BrotherWord – Submission

#AskBrotherWord - Submit

BrotherWord,

Do you think women should be submissive to their husbands?  After having a conversation with a group of older ladies, I really began to wonder.  I was asked if I was submissive to men and told rather matter-of-factly, that I would continue to be single and forever lonely until I learned how to cater to my man!  They went on to say that young women are more about friends, careers, etc. first and treat men as a last priority.  Their definition of being submissive was that their needs are met after his and to allow the man to make choices and simply follow.  Call me crazy, but I’ve been making decisions for myself for quite sometime and I don’t need anyone making them for me now.  I have no problem collaborating, but it sounds to me they are saying I need to relinquish all freedom and personal choices.  That isn’t an option so now what?

SIncerely,

New Millenium Woman (more…)

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