Posts tagged #MotivationalMonday
Always remember who you and whose you are no matter if the world tries to tell you otherwise or people attempt to persuade you differently. You have been wonderfully made, specifically purposed, and uniquely created. Who you are may evolve as the days pass along and life takes on new meaning, but your core essence will always remain. Whose you are, that will never change.
A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches… Proverbs 22:1; A good name is better than precious ointment… Ecclesiastes 7:1; … and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 9:6
“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” ~ William Shakespeare None of us chose our parents, but one way or another, no matter how you slice it, they chose us. When they chose us, they also gave us a name – who we are. Our name identified us to others and to ourselves. Our name became a marker of who we are and made us accountable to everyone who preceded us and responsible to all that followed. We have our given name and our surname, the one we inherited as part of the family. As we carry our name, we also carry the legacy of our families and try to preserve what is best and build for the next generation. Who we are is the byproduct of the past, present, and future and despite what hell the world may throw in your direction, who you are will always be just as sweet.
But whose we are, that is a completely different notion. We were chosen at birth by Christ and as a child of His, it is cemented whose we are.
You have not chosen Me, but I have chosen you and I have appointed and placed and purposefully planted you, so that you would go and bear fruit and keep on bearing, and that your fruit will remain and be lasting, so that whatever you ask of the Father in My name [as My representative] He may give to you. John 15:16 (AMP)
Whose we are is a direct correlation of our relationship with Christ and in order to have a relationship, you have to be in relation to the One who first chose you. Being in relation helps to clearly define matters as well, because when you truly know whose you are, the perils of life are not that daunting. When you know whose you are and stand firmly in that knowledge, you pray instead of panic, rejoice instead of regret, celebrate instead of criticize, worship instead of worry, knowing that all things are working together for your good and if it happened, God allowed it, and you will be the better because of it! Because we know whose we are, we have a level of trust and belief that surpasses all understanding and even in the midst of chaos and mayhem, we can still look to the hills and smile, knowing He that first chose us, is already fighting our battles.
Remember who you are can be found in your given and inherited name and when combined with whose you are, you become an unstoppable force. Just as God changed Abram’s name to Abraham, “father of many,” and changed Sarai’s name to Sarah, “mother of nations,” He too has designed a destiny for you too.
Remember whose child you are. You’re a chosen vessel, created for good works. You’re holy and acceptable to the Lord. You have not chosen Christ, but He has chosen you with everlasting love. Remember whose you are. You’re the child of the Most High God. A citizen of the kingdom of God, an ambassador for Christ with diplomatic immunity. Walk in the abundance of God’s grace, power, and privilege through Christ Jesus. ~ Buky Ojelab
“I have decided to stick with love…Hate is too great a burden to bear.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Today brings a wealth of pride and equally, a tremendous amount of sorrow. In a world where hatred and discontent is spewed with such ease and venom, I can only imagine Dr. King weeping outwardly wondering how so much of his efforts have dissipated. I shutter to think what he would say, but imagine it would be something like this.
“Now there is a final reason I think that Jesus says, “Love your enemies.” It is this: that love has within it a redemptive power. And there is a power there that eventually transforms individuals. Just keep being friendly to that person. Just keep loving them, and they can’t stand it too long. Oh, they react in many ways in the beginning. They react with guilt feelings, and sometimes they’ll hate you a little more at that transition period, but just keep loving them. And by the power of your love they will break down under the load. That’s love, you see. It is redemptive, and this is why Jesus says love. There’s something about love that builds up and is creative. There is something about hate that tears down and is destructive. So love your enemies. ~
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
As a member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc., following in the steps of Brother King takes an even deeper meaning and the legacy he left behind, we each strive to emulate and hold high daily. As Dr. King continue to reiterate, life is not about who we are, but what we do with the life we have. If you are still trying to figure out your purpose, need a little motivation, or caught up in self, take time to listen to the powerful speech below. Greatness lies in a willingness to serve, not be recognized, but to give, not receive.
Thank you Martin Luther King, Jr.!
Sacrifice is not without sorrow, but greater are the promises of tomorrow. ~ BrotherWord
As a #NewYear dawns on us, so does new hopes, aspirations, and resolutions. With each comes an invigorated spirit of excitement and dedication, but unfortunately by early February, many of us have loss enthusiasm or completely abandoned the plan. Thinking of what I hope to accomplish to do this year, I must say I have an aggressive list of things I would like to accomplish and although each is very achievable, it will require discipline, proper time management, and continued prayer.
No matter what resolution or promise you have made to yourself or others, remember each day is its own opportunity. Start small and work toward the big stuff. You did not gain that weight overnight, nor will you lose it overnight; it took longer than a week to accumulate the clutter in the house, so do not think you will blink your eyes and it will disappear either. Obtaining goals are more about the process than it is the timeframe. Anything that is done consistently becomes habit and habits become building blocks.
Focus on building good habits and watch the #ToDoList check itself off. And if you are having a hard time figuring out where to start, please take a moment to look over #30ThingsYouMightWantToStartDoingForYourself by Darryl Ricardo Matthews, Sr – @32ndGP. With any endeavor, it is always good to begin within and these 30 reminders are essential building blocks to life goals!
No matter what this year holds, do not lose hope and do not give up. Remember each day may bring its own obstacles, but it also presents new opportunities. (more…)
Back against the wall and the walls are closing in. Do you coward in the corner or brace yourself, ready to defend? Champ or chump, choice is up to you. The only way to find out is come out swinging and make it do what it do. But the victor is not based solely on the one who wins, but victory comes in having the courage to pick yourself up, push yourself off the wall, and fight to the very end. ~ BrotherWord
There are tests in life that will have you teetering on the verge of complete collapse. Whether physical, mental, or emotional, everyone has a breaking point which they feel they can no longer go any further. How many of you have been at that point? How many have been at the bottom with no hope of ever rising again? How many have thrown in the towel and gave up?
This thing called life is not for the meek or faint of heart and as I am often reminded, those that have and are living in their purpose, the attacks are more frequent and twice as brutal! Isn’t that how a typical boxing match works though? There are two fighters in the ring, well trained, willing to throw punches, and ready to defend. But how quickly it changes when one boxer is taking a barrage of punches, pushed up against the ropes, and all the training in the world does not seem to matter.
No different in life. Ethnicity, social class, education, financial status, none of it makes us impervious to the punches of life. What separates champions is what they do in times of adversity. What will you do when you take a punch, get knocked down, find yourself with your back against the wall? Fight! There is not other answer. Fight! Sometimes the fight may mean swing and punch your way out. Sometimes it may mean ducking and avoiding the blows. Other times it may mean being strategic and cerebral. Could also mean taking an emotional and spiritual account of matters and reassessing your inner person. Either way, fight with every weapon you have and do not stop fighting until you find yourself victorious. You may find your back against the wall, but that does not mean that is where you have to stay.
Never give up or give in. It is at the bleakest times we shine brightest and when we discover there is no limit to how far we can go. At the edge of despair and defeat, God will either catch you when you fall or teach you how to fly.
Have you ever had a certain vision or image in mind or a design or pattern in which you think things should happen or unfold only for it not to remotely resemble what you envisioned? It can be frustrating and deflating, but do not let the detour deter the dream!
The beauty of dreams are that they are organic, fluid, ever evolving, and just because they may start one way, it is not unusual for them to take an alternate route. What so many of us miss is the beauty and message discovered in the detour. A detour does not necessarily mean you have been knocked off course, but instead reveals another way in which to reach your destiny. A detour is not a dead end!
You may have a usual route you take daily to and from work. After awhile, your vehicle could pretty much drive itself home. It becomes bland, mundane, and unadventurous. But now there is construction or an accident and you have been detoured and forced to take an unfamiliar passage. Although this new direction is foreign, it yields its own perks. You get to see new parts of the city, come across new establishments, and because it is new, your every sense is titillated, soaking in the fresh and fascinating scenery.
Same with life. Sometimes in life we get knocked off course for one reason or another or without rhyme or rationale, the course simply changes. Do not let the detour deter the dream. Although the road you traverse my change, it is the journey that should be cherished. Destiny is not determined by where you start, so no matter where you start or which roads you travel, your destiny is married to your willingness to withstand and continue on no matter where the roads lead.
Enjoy the detours life present. They offer us all an opportunity to experience new things we may have otherwise missed, to see new outlooks, and to learn alternate ways to reach our destiny. Detours also shield us from harm and protect us from unknown mishaps. Our detours remind us to be patient and to soak in the journey, not overlooking or ignoring the paths we travel or taking for granted the experiences that help us to grow. Remember, the detour does not deter the dream; it develops the destiny!
“The most fulfilling adventures happen when you start your journey without knowing where you’re going, because only then are you free to experience the unexpected detours you’re meant to take.” ~ A.J. Darkholme
“I think that you have to believe in your destiny; that you will succeed. You will meet a lot of rejection and it is not always a straight path, there will be detours – so enjoy the view.” ~ Michael York
Part of reaching your destiny is understanding your detours.” ~ Tony Eavns
Opportunity waits on no one and unless you are willing to face the challenge head on, you will constantly miss the mark. Those that succeed the most are those that not only seize opportunity when it appears, but are prepared to capitalize at a moment’s notice. But it’s the rare few that make their own opportunity that really stand out!
With so much controversy and hoopla over #Oscars2016 and the lack of nominees for African-Americans, it shines a tremendous spotlight on how important it is to carve out your own path and make your own way. Not every breakthrough is by traditional means, i.e., go to school, develop a trade, work your way up the ladder, and retire happily. Sometimes the path to success means paving the road yourself, a leap of faith, or building your empire from the ground up through unconventional means.
Many have heard the familiar stories about Walt Disney, Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs, and so many others, but what escapes most is that the path that lead to their success was a lonely, grueling, and self-inflicting journey that they chose. They decided at some point that in order to find success and their own happiness, they would have to build their own lane and ride it to the end no matter where it led.
In a world where too many are waiting for handouts or depending on someone else to give them a chance, those that have chosen to chase their dreams have discovered what to some seemed to be an elusive chase meant breaking down walls and barriers and paving their own road. If you want it, make it happen. If you are passionate about it, pursue it. If you want to succeed, be willing to map your own success. If you want to be happy, do not be afraid to follow where it leads. And finally, if the road does not already exist, build it yourself!
“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
There is no greater motivation than LIFE itself! Tomorrow is not promised to anyone and at any giving moment, it can come to an end. Today’s Motivational Monday is as personal as it gets as five years later I reflect on my sister who unknowingly helped to birth BrotherWord and all that has come to fruition.
The people around us affect us in so many ways without them even knowing and through those interactions, we discover who we are, what we are about, and in that rare occasion, they help us to unearth our God-given purpose. Through my sister I learned that life is what we make of it, the lives we touch, and that fulfilling God’s purpose is the truest route to not only happiness on earth, but everlasting joy and peace.
Find what and whom motivates you to be your best and then latch on to them, learn from them, ask them questions, and most importantly, take the time to let them know that their life has and is making a difference on your life in return. This thing we call life is shorter than we think and fleeing, so give those you love and cherish their flowers while they are breathing.
5 years and running and still wondering why. Still questioning God, “Why she’s not still alive? Why she had to die? Yet no more tears left to cry.
How do you mourn when there’s so much pain? When the grief hits so hard from just mentioning her name?
Where do you find comfort when you cannot find peace? The memories begin to fade, the voice becomes a whisper, when the agony never seems to cease.
How do you begin to move forward when the past keeps dragging you back? How do you let go of the hurt when every waking moment seems like an anxiety attack?
Look to the heavens from which your blessings flow, remember what you reap is also what you sow. But when I look upward all I want is to see her face, but instead the clouds hide her and and I find myself in an empty space.
I’m thankful to God for the time spent, the laughter, the conversations, the hugs and the kisses, but what do you do when all you can think about is how much you miss her?
Counseling, communication, and church, nothing fills the void; and here we are 5 years later and it still feels like yesterday, one continuing, horrible nightmare, that has come forth to steal, kill, and destroy.
But the devil is a liar and my Christ is the forever joy that can make us whole, because even in death, Melissa transformed lives and saved countless souls.
5 years later and yes it still hurts, but as God as my witness and my sister as my motivation, I must continue their great works!
We each have a purpose and my angel’s work was done, so now it is up to us all to pick up the mantle and make sure that we complete our task before the setting of the sun.
Can never repay her for all that she gave nor all that she means, so I will live my life in her honor, never forgetting the love we share or the unbreakable bond, knowing she watches over me and I can see her my dreams.
Rest in paradise baby, you fought and won the battle, and Heaven is your reward. Know that you taught your big brother more than you could ever know and now I live for us both as I edify our Lord.
Rest in paradise on your birthday as we blow out the candles wishing you nothing but peace; and know how much we love you and your memory and legacy shall live on and never cease. © ~BrotherWord
New Year, Same Me; Fresh beginnings, more of this world to see. Leaving the past behind and moving forward to a life on purpose; If you didn’t hear my last year, listening a lil closer, I promise it will be worth it! ~ BrotherWord
2015 has come and gone and not sure what you set out to accomplish or if last year was deemed a success, but what I can assure you of is that 2016 brings with it new beginnings and a fresh start. No need to look in the rearview mirror or wonder what if. Today is a fresh start and it is time to get to work!
Do not worry about what happened last year that no longer has any bearing on the future. What was is not what shall be and what shall be can only happen if you are moving forward. Use the past as fuel and a lesson, remembering what was learned and continuing to strive towards your purpose. Everything you have gone through has positioned you for this exact time and you are ready to conquer whatever lies ahead.
No more slogans, clichés, or gimmicks. It is time to go to work and time to make it happen. Take this world head on, not shying from the difficult, not afraid to fail, ignoring the naysayers, and believing you will succeed. This is the year things will start to line up and the fruits of your labor will be rewarded. Everything you have worked so hard for will now unveil itself. Do not give up or give in; you are on the verge of greatness!
See you on the battlefield…
“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language. And next year’s words await another voice. And to make an end is to make a beginning.” ~ T.S. Eliot
In 1994, Chicago based restaurant consultant, Allen H. Kelson, wrote an article entitled, The Ten Commandments for Menu Success, referring to food menu items. Would if we applied some of those same principles to our everyday life and in our pursuit of accomplishing our dreams and goals, we had “commandments for everyday success?” Here are 5 life skills to finding success in all facets of life:
1.) Speak plainly. – Speak those things as if they are. Have said it time and time again and I thoroughly believe and live by the mantra that our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our character, and our character becomes our destiny. Speak destiny over your life and remove negative thoughts, destructive actions, and anything that does personify a successful character. If you do speak positive into your life, why are you surprised when everything turns out negative?
2.) Say what is important. – Learn how to separate the important stuff from the frivolous. Do not get lost or distracted in the mundane, but instead focus on and put your energy to what is truly important. If it is not growing you, it is holding you back!
3.) Describe it completely. – Write the vision and engrave it plainly on tablets, so that whoever reads it will run (takeoff). For the vision is yet for an appointed time, it hurries toward fulfillment, and will not fail. Though it may tarry, patiently wait for it, because it will surely come, it will not tarry. Describe your vision completely from inception to fruition, plainly laying out every detail so that as you continue on your journey you have a tangible blueprint to follow, mile markers to achieve, and you never lose site of the ultimate goal.
4.) Less is more. – Do not try to overdo or complicate things. Many times the road less traveled carries with it less traffic and far few more complications. Do not make things more difficult or cumbersome. “That which is less complicated is often better understood and more appreciated than what is more complicated; simplicity is preferable to complexity; brevity in communication is more effective than verbosity.” ~ Ludwig Miles van der Rohe
5.) Maintain a sense of perspective. – Everyday will not be the same nor will it turn out exactly as planned. It is vital to keep the proper perspective and remember the big picture. Just because something may not turn out as exactly expected or there may be a setback or detour in direction does not mean you have failed or it is time to scrap the whole idea. Remember, He that began a good work in you will perfect it (carry it on to completion) and remind yourself that you are just as dedicated to achieving it! Do not let perspective betray your progress or tarnish your purpose.
When God pushes you to the edge of difficulty, trust Him fully because two things can happen. Either He can catch you when you fall or He will teach you how to fly!
Are you familiar with the story of the mother eagle? She provides a nest for her eaglets, nurturing them, feeding them, protecting, and ensuring that they are well taken care of and have an opportunity to grow and experience what life has to offer. But this is not a lifelong setting and soon the realities of life start to unfold. Soon the mother eagle will take her offspring in her mouth, fly out the nest and release them! As the baby eagle begins to descend, she swoops in, catching them and returning them to the nest. The process is repeated over and over and she begins to disassemble the nest in the process as well.
The purpose is multi-faceted:
1.) Encourage the offspring to fly and fulfill their potential. By dropping them, they quickly learn how fleeing life can be and how at a moment’s notice you could be sitting up high and have it all come tumbling down. In order to soar in life, you have to spread your wings and fly.
2.) To show them that life is not about being comfortable and no matter how much others may provide a comfortable environment, at some point each of us has to leave home and discover our own paths.
3.) That no matter how far we fall, those that love us and care about us will be there to catch us no matter what. We all will fall short and at one point or another come crashing down, but there will still be those who care who will be there to soften the blow and rescue us for certain doom.
4.) To not be afraid of our potential and even if we are afraid, to overcome it. We each have to discover who we are and what we are capable of and the only way to do that is my stepping out on faith!
Like the eaglets, many of us want to be at ease, no difficulties, and coasting through life, but it is the challenges of life that shape us and mold us into who we are destined to become. Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.
The challenge today is to let go of anything or anyone that is holding you back, anything that is stopping your from fulfilling your destiny, anything that is prevented you from spreading your wings and flying. If it is not challenging you, it is not growing you, and anything that is not growing you is causing you to become stagnant and decay. As uncomfortable and frightening as the ledge may seem, it isn’t until you take that leap that you realize you don’t have to fall, but instead roam the sky and discover new horizons.
“In the ashes of adversity, lies opportunity.” ~ S.L. Coelho