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Test Of a Man

BrotherWord - Character

The test of a man is the fight that he makes, the grit that he daily shows;

the way that he stands upon his feet, and takes life’s numerous bumps and blows… 

Character can be described as the mental and moral fiber that is distinctive to an individual.  It is the thing that makes a person uniquely who they are and separates them from everyone else.  But most importantly, character is the one trait that defines us at our core and comes to the forefront at the most crucial of times.  Do we fold when it gets tough, act out when life throws obstacles at us, allow others to “take us out of character,” or do we rise above the worst life has to offer, fighting and clawing with everything in us to prevail and overcome. 

The Josephson Institute talks about the six pillars of character and by using a color code, it breaks down character into six major categories – Trustworthiness, Respect, Responsibility, Fairness, Caring, and Citizenship.  

Each category provides a meaningful definition of what builds character and why it is so important to maintain one’s character.  Once character has been tarnished, it will follow you the rest of your life.  Ironically, character is developed over the span of a person’s life and is not something that happens over night.  Study the character assessment, determine what you possess and what is lacking, and start building the person you want to be.

Come back soon as we put the six pillars to test and find out how each one affects us on their own and how they work together!

“Character is like a tree and reputation is like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

“A good name will shine forever.” ~ Proverb

“A man’s character is like his shadow, which sometimes follows and sometimes precedes him, and which is occasionally longer, occasionally shorter, than he is.” ~ Madame de la Rochejuquelein

BrotherWord - 6 Pillars of Character

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - Hostage

Matthew 5:44-45 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

BrotherWord - Warning


– For Mature, Open-Minded Individuals 

There will come a time in everyone’s life when you will have to make some tough choices and come to terms with harsh realities and it is at that moment when each of us will face the proverbial fork in the road.  Do you lash out and seek vengeance against those that wrongfully attempt to persecute you or do you handle them with grace and dignity?

Whatever the decision, remember it is a reflection of you and not the culprit.  One of the many truths about life is that you will not get along with everyone you encounter and as complicated as it may become, you may actually have to work with those you genuinely despise.  It can be a daunting task and one that requires restraint and tact, but it is a necessary evil.  There are many times and in various arenas when you will have to work side-by-side with people you do not like, do not care for, and would rather push off a cliff instead of sharing work space.  How you handle this moment can determine your success or failure.

Every action begets a counter action and if you choose retaliation, you are only dooming yourself.  It takes a bigger person to look beyond faults, accusations, and sabotage and see the bigger picture.  If you become too consumed with getting back at the person or causing them harm, you ultimately are doing yourself a disservice.  The greatest way to overcome your tormentor is to strive regardless of their attempt to ruin you at every turn.  Win with a smile and a determination to excel no matter what.  Nothing thwarts the plans of the enemy more than not allowing anything or anyone to slow you down, deter your course, or cause you to act of character.

True perseverance is going on no matter what and not stopping until you reach your goal, even if that means having to align with the very person who tried to destroy you.  Kill them with success and bury them with a smile!  You may have heard me say this before, but it is worth repeating.  You may not be able to control the actions of others, but you can always control your reaction.  That reaction is what separates the victors from the victims.  Which do you choose to be?

At the end of the day it is impossible to please everyone and to complicate matters more, there will be people who will dislike you and bring turmoil into your life for no other reason than they are not you and are jealous and envious.  How we handle these people and situations is our test and our opportunity to grow and demonstrate class, dignity, and maturity.  Do not let the actions of another dictate the outcome of your future.

“You will sleep much better when you don’t allow your anger to hold your peace hostage!” @ALewis713

Motivational Monday

BrotherWord - The Pen

There are certain things in life that no one can take away from you – hope, integrity, education, self-worth, self-discipline, or character.  No matter the obstacles or the detractors, there is no one or no thing that has more say so in your development other than you!

As many have seen, the livelihood of several professional athletes has been stripped away and/or put in jeopardy over the last few weeks.  A life they worked for from the time they could walk until it materialized, these men gave their all and positioned themselves to reap the fruits of their labor.  How little did they know that in the blink of an eye, it would be all snatched away.  It is one thing to have an injury derail your career, but when it stems from behavior that could have been prevented, self-inflicted, that is when circumstances start controlling your life instead of you controlling your circumstances.

Learn from others’ mistakes and stop letting everyone else dictate your life.  Look at the picture above, it speaks volumes.  As long as you continue to let others hold the pen, they will continue to write the story they see for your life, and that is where you lose all power.  Today is the day to take back control and start acting as your own scribe.  The life you seek is at the tip of your fingertips and all you need to do is start penning your memoirs.

Your life is filled with so many endless possibilities, but what is certain is that we each one, you have an opportunity to formulate the life you seek.  Our paths may be different, our journeys longer, but no matter the road we travel, we all have the ability to reach our destiny.  Hope is eternal, integrity is a choice, self-worth and self-discipline are innate traits, and character is the lasting impression.  How will the story of your life read and who will be the author?

Where others have faltered, you can learn, and the quicker you do, the better off you will be.  It is very cliché, but there is truth in the statement, “you are the captain of your ship.”  “I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach me destination.” ~ Unknown 

Motivational Mondays

BrotherWord - Finish Strong

“Start strong, stay strong, and finish strong  by always remembering why you’re doing it in the first place.” ~ Ralph Marston

None of what you have accomplished thus far will matter if you do not see it through.  The quickest way to failure is through quitting.  Finish what you start!  You started because you have a purpose to fulfill, a destination to arrive at, and goals in mind.  There is more to finishing than just completing the task, so make sure you finish as strong as you started.

The road may get treacherous, but that’s the beauty in travel.  Treacherous roads teach survival and navigation skills, and as we travel down these roads we discover what we are truly made of.  Each road brings with it a certain degree of difficulty, a new challenge, but if you turn around before you reach the end, how will you ever know what awaits you.  

The road less traveled is for the brave!  This road was designed for those willing to accept their calling, strong enough to face the challenges ahead, and focused on finishing.  Finishing builds character and fortitude and every time you finish and complete a task, you gain strength and confidence.  Finishing just like quitting becomes a character trait.  Which one do you choose?

So finish strong, muster every ounce of energy and ability to accomplish what you set out to achieve.  No matter how long the race or how grueling the battle, the victor is the one who finishes and does not give up!  Your race has already begun.  Do you stay the course and finish strong or quit before you reach the finish line?

“Starting strong is good.  Finishing strong is epic! ~ Robin Sharma”

Thankful Thursdays!

BrotherWord - Thankful Thursday!

I’m so THANKFUL for life’s experiences.  Every experience may not be pleasant but they are the building blocks that shape us.  Experience teaches so many valuable lessons and as long as the lesson has been learned, the reward is worth any struggle.  Embrace your experiences, digest them, and use very experience as a springboard to reach new heights.  Let each experience, good or bad, make you that much bolder to seek new adventures, to reach a little further, and to become that much braver as you navigate life.  Hiding in the shadows and allowing fear to dictate your next move is not living.  The only way to experience life is to live it!

I’ve used the following quote many times and it has blessed me in so many ways and I am very THANKFUL for everything it represents.  What it sums up is that life’s experiences formulate our being in so many ways and each experience is another tool to help build our dreams and steer us to our destiny.


Experience has taught me who I am; as a man thinketh, so is he.  Experience has shown me that I possess every thing I need to succeed; what I speak shall come into existence. Experience has taught me that although I may fail or fall at times, I am not a failure and I can rise again; my actions are teaching moments and every action segues into a new degree of mental and emotional awareness.  Experience has given me discernment in selecting my friends and peers and also has helped determined what to pursue and what to let go.  The habits I practice are learned behavior the have fortified my morals and ethical approach to life.  Experience has afforded me the ability to trust my instincts, believe in myself, and rely on my abilities and developed my character as a man, Christian, brother, friend, counselor, life coach, speaker, and server of mankind.  Experience has provided the life lessons and tools to pursue my dreams with confidence and vigor.  Experience has made me appreciate what’s most important and be THANKFUL for what I have.  Experience has caused me to appreciate both closed doors and opportunity knocking.  Experience continues to give me hope and pushes me daily to my destiny.

No matter what life throws at you, never shy away from the experience.  It is what is used to prepare you for the next phase and what will provide you with the skill set to handle the next challenge.  Embrace your experiences and own every one as it develops and drives you to your destiny!  The more you THINK, the more you THANK and I couldn’t be more THANKFUL for life’s experiences as they have shaped me into who I am and allowed me to share those experiences with people worldwide, bettering their lives and giving them hope.

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ~ C.G. Jung

“The person who has lived the most is not the one with the most years, but the one with the richest life experiences.” ~ Jean Jacques Rousseau


Thankful Thursdays!

BrotherWord - Thankful Thursdays

I saw a sign recently that read, “A Thankful Heart is a Happy Heart.”  How àpropos.  The more we think, the more we thank©.  The brighter our spirits become, the more the burdens dissolve and the faster our hearts and souls fill with joy.  Proverbs 23:7 reads, “For as one thinks in his heart, so is he.”  The mind is the most powerful tool God gave man and mere thoughts can change a person’s outlook on life and transform the world around them.  Today I am so THANKFUL for peace of mind and a happy heart!  To have calmness despite being in the midst of storms, to know that in every trial there is a lesson to be learned, and realize that despite any setbacks, tomorrow presents an opportunity to improve and grow, is a purposeful choice to choose happiness and gratefulness and not succumb to life’s heartaches and tragedies.  What a blissful and THANKFUL thought!  Let today start the transformation of your thoughts and life.  Life will present you with many moments of despair, but that’s just it, they are ONLY moments.  Choose to minimize the moment and maximize the potential to gain self-actualization and self-improvement.  Think about all the blessings you have, look at how far you’ve come and imagine how far you’ve yet to go, envision happiness and greatness let it be the catalyst of THANKFULNESS.  As cliché as it may be, we truly are what we think.  When you begin to think, began to thank, and watch your world morph and take a paradigm shift turning into a masterpiece of beauty, joy, and unparalleled happiness.  #Think2Thank

 We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think.  When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.     ~ Buddha

BrotherWord - Rev. Michael P. Jacques

  ~ Dedicated to the memory and legacy of Rev. Michael P. Jacques, S.S.E., a priest and pillar of a community and city, an activist and advocate for Jesus Christ and his fellow man, a father, uncle, brother, and friend, who showed love to whomever crossed his path, who smiled through life’s worst times, taught others how to not only overcome, but to reach new heights, who fought for the downtrodden and less fortunate, who cared for the elderly and indigent, and who lived a life that exemplified  Jesus’ love, grace, mercy, and mission of servitude.  He will be missed by many, but the life he led taught us all what life is truly about and how to make the most out of the lives we’ve been given.  Love you Fr. Mike
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