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Love Thyself

BrotherWord - Love Thyself

For any of us to be happy in any relationship, we first must be happy with ourselves.  Same rings true in love.  In order to receive or give love, we first must be able to love ourselves.  Loving ourselves is a phenomenal epiphany that happens over the course of lifetime and formulates as we begin to accept who we are, wonderfully and perfectly made in God’s image.

But what happens when loving ourselves becomes convoluted and blown out of proportion?  One Houston woman took loving thyself to another level and wait for it… married herself!  40 year old, Yasmin Eleby, made a promise to herself that if she had not found a suitable mate by the age of forty she would marry herself and earlier this month she did exactly that with the accompanying honeymoon.  See the article below which talks about and shows pictures from the elaborate wedding.

The conundrum is not the fact that she loves herself, but the lengths in which she went to express that.  How much is too much and what message is she really sending?  Furthermore, the multitude of people who participated and attended, was it healthy or productive that they are encouraging such behavior?  Eleby is correct in demonstrating that one must love themselves for who they are and in all their glory, but I have to disagree with the form of expression.

Not the first to pull off this feat, it is a mockery of the institution of marriage and all it stands for and also diminishes the theory that loving one’s self does not require making a grand announcement or spectacle.  To love oneself, all that is needed is self-awareness, self-appreciation, self-confidence, and self-acceptance.  In addition, to love thyself is a personal affirmation, not a public proclamation.  What is empowering and encouraging is knowing that even alone, I am still happy, I am just as great, I do not need someone to complete my life because I am whole, and I love myself no matter what.  How many times have you heard someone proclaiming, “I love myself.”  Not very often because it is not required or necessary.

If you want to express the love you have for yourself, simply do that.  Take pride in who you are, build the life you aspire to have, and take responsibility for your own happiness.  It does not require a lavish ceremony or a public display, but merely a look in the mirror as a reminder of how thankful you are for the life you have.

Do you think the solo wedding was too much or appropriate?  Would you marry yourself?  Let @BrotherWord know what you think and make sure to leave a comment here or at Twitter – @BrotherWord or

“Love yourself… Accept yourself… Forgive yourself, and be good to yourself.  Because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia

Lemons to LemonAID

BrotherWord - Lemonade

We have no idea what life may throw at us in a moment’s notice or the ripple effect it can cause, but life is not so much about what you go through, but how you go through it.  Every storm is not intended to destroy, but in actuality, to build and show us what we are capable of accomplishing.

Phil Laboon was faced with such a storm.  Days before his wedding was scheduled to take place, for one reason or another, he no longer could go forward with the nuptials and decided to cancel his wedding.  Anyone who has witnessed a wedding ceremony has an idea about the amount of preparation that goes into planning, the excitement leading up to the big day, and the happiness and overwhelming emotions that culminate in the aftermath.  But what happens when all that goes for naught and all the plans are cancelled and the wedding is called off?  How do you salvage the euphoria and still make something memorable of the day.

Having already booked and paid for many amenities for a wedding that was no longer going to happen, Laboon began focusing his energy towards using the already paid for hall to raise awareness and funding for a worthy cause. What he was able to accomplish should be commended and it should also be a lesson.  Life can and will cause havoc and possibly wreck every plan you have made, but that is not where your story has to end.  We can not stop life from happening, but we can absolutely control how we react, how we adapt, or how we fight back.  Lemons may be bitter at first, but they can be turned into the sweetest elixir to quench the greatest of thirst.

Take a moment to view the video below.  It is a testament to how even the worse incidents can turn into the biggest blessing!  And if you are in the Pittsburgh, PA. area Sunday, August 31, 2014, click the link below the video to see how you can help Phil change the lives of many.

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” ~ Charles R. Swindoll


Thankful Thursdays!

BrotherWord - Thankful Thursdays

So THANKFUL for wedded bliss and with June being one of the most popular months to get married, it is amazing the creativity couples are incorporating in their weddings.  Couples are now taking weddings from a simple ceremony and reception to a full production with choreographed dance moves, full theatrics, and tons of fun.  It is fantastic how these couples have chosen to begin their journey.  What some may think is over the top and too much, I am very THANKFUL that they chose to share their moment in such a grand fashion!  Enjoy the videos and let BrotherWord know what you think and if you will be including a performance in your nuptials.

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